A few years ago I found a BDSM test, as I wanted to better understand the types of kinky personas were out there. Their web page had a section on BDSM Info & Archetypes that was very very helpful. Shall we take a look?

Let’s start with the very basic. Not long ago, I wrote about The ABC of BDSM and The Type of Plays in BDSM, but in short BDSM is an umbrella term for a variety of practices or roleplaying. It is an acronym representing:

• BD: Bondage & Discipline (playing with physical restraints, training, punishment, etc.)
• DS: Dominance & Submission (playing with obedience, power exchange, service, humility, etc.)
• SM: Sadism & Masochism (playing with pain, degradation, fear, etc.)

Often, anything ‘deviant’ in a sexual context is also considered part of BDSM. BDSM is based on consent, please do check The ABC of BDSM for a definition of RACK, SSC, AND PRICK, which are consent protocols. If it’s not consensual then it’s not BDSM, it’s sexual and domestic abuse.

The Archetypes

We are all different and have different kinks. But also we have different degrees of kinkiness. The test we’ll be looking at takes in consideration the most common ‘archetypes’, and gives you an indication of your kinkiness (from 0% to 100%). I have copied here their exact definitions of archetype, and added some comments, take a read before you take the test.

Dominant

Dominants like to be in charge. Some like to have their partner obey them without questioning, others like some resistance while taking it their way. Some are dominant only in the bedroom, others are dominant throughout their daily life as well. Unlike the top roles (giving pain/bondage/degradation), being dominant is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.

Some notes here I would like to add. Dominants are also called Tops. Dominants can dominants in the bedroom while being submissive in their vanilla life; think of a non-leadership role in the workplace/daily life. Dominants can occasionally also be Service-Tops, meaning they do the topping, but activities are chosen by the submissive.

Submissive

Submissives like to follow. Some like to give the control away to their partner(s), some like to have it forcibly taken from them. Some are submissive only in the bedroom, others are submissive throughout their daily life as well (usually with limitations). Unlike the bottom roles (receiving pain/bondage/degradation), being submissive is more about who decides what happens (and takes the responsibility that comes with it) than about the contents of what happens.

Some notes here I would like to add. Submissives are also called Bottoms. Submissives can bottom in the bedroom while being a top in their vanilla life; maybe having a leadership role, of high responsibility, in the workplace or in their daily life. 

Switch

Switches like to… well, switch. Always taking a dominant or top position is not for them, neither is always taking a submissive or bottom position. Some prefer to switch with the same partner or partners, others have a dominant play partner and a submissive play partner, but in either case they do not fit on one end point of the spectrum.

Some notes here I would like to add. It’s worth bearing in mind that, in some cases, switches have a preference or a tendency towards one way or the other, so never assume when you meet a switch that they are 100% into both.

Sadist

Sadists enjoy inflicting (certain types of) pain on their partner(s), usually in a sexual context.

Masochist

Masochists enjoy receiving (certain types of) pain from their partner(s), usually in a sexual context. Masochism is independent of pain tolerance: it is purely about the ability to enjoy (or get aroused by) certain levels of pain.

Some notes here I would like to add. Sadist and masochist often act their role in what’s considered sensation play (more about it here). Again, as everything else, there are different degrees to it, and it could bleed into edge play depending on the degree (more about it here, end of the page).

Rigger

Riggers like to tie up and restrain their partner(s), using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, spreader bars, etc.). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy having their partners completely at their mercy.

Rope bunny

Rope bunny likes to be tied up and restrained, using rope and/or other attributes (chains, cuffs, spreader bars, etc.). Whether for sexual enhancement, for art or just for fun, they enjoy being totally at the mercy of their partner(s).

Some notes here I would like to add. I have covered in the past bondage play (Intro to Shibari), so if you have any doubts about what it is, check out the blog post. 

Master/Mistress

Masters/Mistresses receive complete control over the life of their slave(s), and all responsibilities that come with it. They go a step further than dominants in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Their primary focus is to create a stable and safe environment for their slave(s), to allow optimal servitude.

Slave

Slaves completely hand over the control and responsibilities over their life to their master/mistress. They go a step further than submissives in the sense that their power exchange is present 24/7 and in all aspects of their life (except for negotiated exceptions such as during their office jobs). Serving their master/mistress is their primary focus in life and they rarely have limits for them.

Degrader

Degraders like to degrade and humiliate their play partner(s), either by acting upon them in a degrading way, or by or by forcing them to do things they consider degrading.

Degradee

Degradees like to be degraded and humiliated by their play partner(s), either by being acted upon in a degrading way, or by being forced do things they consider degrading.

Owner

Owners own pets/properties and take responsibility over them, on a 24/7 basis. Sexuality is not necessarily involved; in some cases role play attributes are also provided (e.g. a cage for the pet). There is no link at all with sex with animals (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum), and many pets don’t even feel like they’re playing an animal, it’s more about the typical relationship between an owner and a pet.

Pet

Pets are property of their owner in daily life. Sexuality is not necessarily involved; in some cases role play attributes are also provided (e.g. a cage for the pet). There is no link at all with sex with animals (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum), and many pets don’t even feel like they’re playing an animal, it’s more about the typical relationship between an owner and a pet.

Some notes here I would like to add. I have covered pet play on here, but of course this varies massively. It can go from a very relaxed interpretation of feeling like you own/are owned or look after/are looked after to a more rigid format where you put a lot more time and effort into it and take it more seriously. For example, if you are really into pony play, you can go to a pony show.

Brat tamer

Brat tamers are, in essence, dominants who enjoy handling bratty submissives. They find disobedience a form of playfulness from the side of the submissive, rather than a form of rudeness. They will take no offence to it, but will still teach the sub a well deserved lesson (because, of course, that is why the bratty sub shows such behavior in the first place).

Brat

Brats are, in essence, naughty submissives. They find disobedience a form of playfulness rather than letting their dominant down, and require a compatible dominant who will not only teach them a lesson, but also accept that any number of lessons might still not necessarily change this behavior.

Primal (Hunter)

Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator (you).

Primal (Prey)

Primals are mainly focused on their natural instincts and they enjoy letting their inner animal out during sex. The key part for primals play is that the participants show their raw, emotional sexual feelings during play. All of the labels, roles, and protocols go out the window, and the prey (you) can become a snarling, growing, clawing animal hell-bent on getting away from its predator.

Daddy/Mommy

Daddies/Mommies take on a caretaker role in the relationship, being a guide as much a dominant. Daddies/Mommies dominate their little treasure submissives with an iron fist in a velvet glove: much cuddly and affectionate on the outside, while being as sturdy and hard on the inside as other dominants. Using subtle psychological mechanisms rather than brute power, they nurture their littles into obedience. Sexuality is not necessarily involved, and there is no link at all with pedophilia (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum).

Boy/Girl

Littles (girls/boys) are submissive spirits with a strong flavor childlike innocence. They long for a nurturing loving dominant who plays a guiding, almost parental role in their lives. While they require a softer approach to be dominated than most other submissives, their submission can be just as deep as that of other submissives or slaves. Sexuality is not necessarily involved, and there is no link at all with pedophilia (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum).

Ageplayer

Ageplayers like to play with age as part of their kink. They typically take on a much younger or older age than they actually are, or prefer playing with a partner that does so. Attributes and behavior changes (such as pacifiers, coloring books, speaking in more childlike language, etc.) are commonly paired with this, to enrich the context and make it more appropriate for the played age. Sexuality is not necessarily involved, and there is no link at all with pedophilia (which is simply not on the BDSM spectrum).

Some notes here I would like to add. Every time I think of ageplayers, I think of that scene in Diary of a Sex Worker… I have added the clip on this page, give it a watch. Obviously is not always this extreme, and you can simply play teacher/student dynamic, but I still find it rather wild. 

Exhibitionist

Exhibitionists enjoy showing their naked body or a sexual activity to other people. Consensually, of course.

Voyeur

Voyeurs enjoy watching the nakedness or sexual activity of other people. Consensually, of course.

Experimentalist

Experimentalists want to have tried it all. An open mind and an insatiable curiosity are their key features, and they will rarely form an opinion before they have gathered first hand experience. They often have plenty of fantasies and will actively pursue to try them out.

Non-monogamist

Non-monogamists do not see sexuality as necessarily a 1 on 1 thing. Whether this means they will have several relationships or just see other people outside their relationship (or have even more exquisite constructions) depends entirely on the person and the situation, but they all have one thing in common: their sexuality is more than just between them and one fixed partner.

Vanilla

Vanilla people enjoy regular, standard sex and relationship models. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you’re having fun!

Now that we have looked at all the personas, are you ready to take a test and find out? You can get the full test or the short version, click below to start.

If you want to read more, you can go visit the BDSM page on Wikipedia, however I have to admit that is heavily bias when it comes to pics to Male Top/Female Bottom. Which obviously is not my jam. Anyone knows how to update a Wiki page?