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From Tom Holland in heels and corset to Daniel Radcliffe in glitter chaps and fluffy boa, I am here for the men in slutty clothes. Miracle Workers is so kinky!

Presenting you The London Femdom Soirée, an event about female laughter and males submission, nibbles, bubbles and more! Exactly what I needed this year.

Heated Rivalry is well directed, well written, perfectly casted, and above all, its message is one of those treasures you want to keep in your heart forever.

A wildly imaginative, consent-focused kink party combining playful costumes, workshops, dungeon spaces, and wonderfully welcoming jungle vibe.

Bitches UnleaSHEd is a judgement-free environment where Dominant Females reign supreme and submissives can free themselves of societal pressures.

Last month in Amsterdam, I enjoyed some sunny weather, partied, and visited Diabolo, a very unique shop full of feathers, leather, spikes, and so much more!

Catcalling is now a crime in the UK. A step towards safety, accountability, and recognising the real impact of public harassment on women and girls. YAY!

Wet Playground’s Valentine’s Big Edition, listed via Kitty Guide, took place in Amsterdam on the 14th of February: a rave in an old prison, in style.

The Eye Museum in Amsterdam held an exhibition on the famous Scottish actress, performer, artist, and fashion icon Tilda Swinton: Tilda Swinton – Ongoing

Three years ago, Erwin Olaf passed away. The Stedelijk Museum in Amsterdam held an exhibition to pay tribute to this versatile and multifaceted artist.

Heartstopper is tender queer joy with shadows beneath—like a soft hug after a hard day. Sweet, honest, and quietly powerful.

When submissive men care more about the fantasy than about you, and I need to have a little rant about it, but I try to be constructive 🙂

More BDSM on screen! Pillion stars Alexander Skarsgård & Harry Melling with intense chemistry, tender yet harsh, beautifully shot but light on consent.

I am currently bingeing on panettone (and kinky tv shows). Back next month 🙂 (also feel free to donate to a good cause this year)

A thoughtful, ceremonial femdom event with cacao, grounding rituals and consent-led play that creates a uniquely calm and connected atmosphere.

Not every kink event fits your fantasy. So why not create one that does? Make it happen. Build the space you want to see.

Decided to review even more munches in London, since there is just so many to go to! I hope you find it helpful and inspire you to attend some 🙂

Dating is messy, but flags help spot the good, the bad, and the quirky. From red to tiger-striped, here’s how to colour-code your love life.

Unicorns in polyamory: let’s explore the dynamics, challenges, and best practices of unicorn relationships/triads and ethical non-monogamy.

Shall we take a look at ‘what kind of kinky’ we are? We could put that to the test with 27 questions 🙂

Gender isn’t binary. Across cultures and identities, it’s a personal truth to respect. Like with titles, please honour pronouns and create space for connection.

Today is throwback time to when I bought a pair of nipple tassels from Trixie Kixx, for a Burlesque Course… tiger-patterned!

Sabrina Carpenter’s new album cover is sexy, provocative, and self-aware. She’s playing with the idea that people will talk. And of course they have. A lot.

Babygirl: a raw, erotic drama exploring BDSM dynamics, office fantasies, and the power of older female desire. Have you watched it?

I am pleased to present you Joining the Kink Community part 9, by Wolf Wonks, a lifestyle Domme friend of mine. Tips about using FetLife!

Netflix’s Adolescence exposes toxic gender roles, cancel culture, and our empathy crisis. A raw look at the world we’re building—and how we can do better.

Interviewing someone who’s running a business within the kink community, Vicky, owner of Bondatrix, performer, and kink educator.

Review of May’s The Cruel Huntress: Why hunt animals when you can hunt humans? Read all about this hunt in the UK, made by kinksters for kinksters!

Interested in visiting the world of a gaysian drag queen, in a gritty, tender, and honest way? Watch this awards winning British movie!

Review of ‘The Receipts Podcast’ with Join Tolly T & Audrey on honest, unfiltered chats on life, relationships, and cultural moments. And some listener mail.

Why being under Her spell might be exactly where you belong: Exploring the power, play, and history of Female Domination.

Sexy men in kilts, steamy period sex, and time-travelling slow-burn kink. Come for the tartan, stay for the longing, lust, and lasagna-level layers.

A deep dive into the psychology of kink and fetish with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey via Seed Talks. Packed with real-life examples, clear language, and great vibes.

Interviewing a friend and published author, Anita Cassidy. Meet the woman behind the novel Appetite, and the website Alethya.

Here are three steps to look after latex: WEAR IT, WASH IT, and STORE IT. Including some extra tips that might come in handy.

Become an ambassador and share your experiences to strengthen the kink community, foster belonging, and educate others. Your journey can make a difference

Benching: Did they put you on a shelf or on a pedestal? Mixed signals, vague plans, and no progress… welcome to another situationship limbo.

Hannah Waddingham dazzled at the Venom: The Last Dance premiere in a bold black latex Atsuko Kudo gown, so daring, sultry, and glamorous!

Explore Fitness Domination with Louise Payn, a Domme blending fitness, yoga, and kink to empower and transform lives in the BDSM community.

Merry Kinkmas! 2024 was a mix of heartache, joy, and kinky adventures. Thank you, community, for your love, laughs, and solidarity. Here’s to 2025! 🖤

A podcast about sex of all kinds with Jamie! All episodes are pretty different and cover various topics, so these are great if you are looking for something specific 🙂

Review of October’s Le Boutique Bazaar: London’s finest underground fashion. Shopping, socialising, and kink with 40+ designers.

Interview with Club Pedestal’s organiser, Derek, on being a women-adoring submissive, the London’s FemDom community, and running the Club.

Feeling lost in the dating forest? Don’t settle for breadcrumbs. Seek connections founded on mutual respect and genuine interest.

Club Femdom returned to The Hatch last August for a night of elegance, power, and high protocol service, celebrating the allure of the Femdom community.

I’ve reviewed some fun places in Amsterdam, and then I thought… why not review one of the longest, most established, fetish shop in London and the UK?

Decided to review even more munches in London, since there is just so many to go to! I hope you find it helpful and inspire you to attend some 🙂

Explored Amsterdam’s Red Light District and visited the Museum of Prostitution – insightful, interactive, and set in a historic brothel. A must-see!

Explored Amsterdam’s Red Light District and visited the Museum of Prostitution – insightful, interactive, and set in a historic brothel. A must-see!

Last week in Amsterdam, I enjoyed Pride, partied, and visited Mister B, a famous fetish shop known for its leather, rubber, and BDSM gear. It was pretty cool!

An harness for pegging that is fully adjustable, and it comes with a handy little bag so that it doesn’t get tangled up in your drawer. Genius.

50 Shades of Kink is compact, pocket size, and focuses on demystifies BDSM myths, emphasizes consent, and offers practical advice for new kinksters. Enjoy!

This June, a new Association was born. They decided to throw a party. I went. Wanna hear about the inaugural event of S+ Association at Electrowerkz?

I am a tea lover. I don’t even drink coffee. So when I saw this, I HAD to write about it. I hope you enjoy it 🙂 take care

After She-Ra, let’s move to Xena! Another fantastic heroine that smashed the 90s with queer tones, sapphic kisses, and badass attitudes 🙂

Rediscover the magic of She-Ra and He-Man, iconic 80s heroes, now rebooted on Netflix for a new generation. Yes, today is cartoons time.

A podcast about candid talks on sex and aging with The Hotbed Collective! Fun, informative, bridge the gap between generations.

Because sometime I stumble into an old sold, and I fall into a wormhole of movies and Japanese anime in search of the exit. Or the restroom.

Beyonce kicking ass with a latex outfit when announcing her new record!

My answer would be ‘very little’! So I decided to ask an expert, someone who is a professional in his field, for his insights and experiences.

Decided to write about the Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin. Take, Allow, Serve, Accept – each slice guides us to pleasure.

Interviewing the mind behind London Alternative Market. Cosmic, someone with a rather controversial reputation, and a friend of fellow blogger Alice.

Most people have heard about the fight or flight response. But is that all we are capable of? Actually, we are capable of at least two more: freeze and fawn.

The podcasters are two cisgender women and BDSM practitioners, and one of them own a dungeons. So I had to listen to it as I dream of saving enough money (or win the lottery) and open my own dungeon one day.

Getting an outfit ready for a party can be quite intimidating, so what are your options? What would be best? Let’s take a look!

5 years ago I started blogging… and I never stopped.

Remember when Kate Beckinsale wore that black latex outfit in Underworld? And went she wore that latex outfit at the Tonight Show?

A new event is on the horizon for you thirsty kinksters! Quench has arrived to London, and I attended their second official party.

This Korean movie si about two co-workers who enter a contractual relationship as partners as Dom and sub. And they are just so very cute.

Interviewing a swinger, blogger, and published author: Alice Hunter. Meet the woman behind Unicorns and How to Hunt Them, and learn about the swinger community.

Sometime, those ghosts from hinge and bumble come back to haunt you, in the form of zombies. And what do you do? Let’s talk about that.

Felt like I needed to share Paco Rabanne Spring Summer 2023 collection, as it’s pretty out there. Also the see-through rain coat is def a must have!

This September, I spent the weekend out and about with a friend, browsing around between kinky shopping and kinky art. What more could I ask for?

Interviewing an old school Dominatrix, Governess, Dungeon Monitor for Club Pedestal. She’s one of the founders of House of Command and rather busy bee!

This might sound strange, but this week’s blog post, is actually my last blog post. I have re-written everything 🙂

Figuring out what to wear at a party can be quite intimidating, so what are your options? What would be best? Let’s take a look!

Review of a guide on Domestic Discipline, which is basically the enactment of drama/fantasy, within a power exchange dynamic, but with spanking.

Because I am (not so) secretly in LOVE with Salma Hayek, and she wore a super hot dress at the Met Gala this year.

You want to go to a party and need an outfit? Pop ups are the best places to get ideas from, this one is Charmskool (the offline version)!

A podcast by Kayla Lords (a female sub) and John Brownstone (a male Dom) sharing what a love of BDSM looks like in a loving D/s relationship.

A new event is on the horizon for you thirsty kinksters! Quench has arrived to London, and I attended their second official party.

Last year I wrote about how we are all getting kinkier, but ‘how kinky’ are we actually getting? Let’s put that to the test!

Because I am a sucker for celebrities collabs, and they have released a single, and they are wearing latex. Here are Kim Petras & Nicki Minaj 🙂

Another review for Torture Garden parties, this time, since it was Valentine’s, I went for some play time in the Dungeon 🙂

Instagram deleted my account, and since I cannot share these sexy bunnies on there, here they are. The account is shadow-banned, click on the link. Enjoy!

Do you remember when I wrote about Pegging? That was after I attended a workshop by a NY-based dominatrix… who has a podcast with his ex lover.

What if your gf cheats on you with your best friend, you boss fires you, everything sucks, and you decide to make some changes in your life?

Because sometime, after receiving a compliment from a guy, I am left more confused than before. A story about negging and simple conversations.

What if you had so much space (does that ever happen in London I wonder?) that you can spare a whole room and turn it into a sex room?

Do you know what consent and fries have in common? Let’s find out with a fun graphic (and maybe a video too). Enjoy!

Looks like, once again, Marilyn Monroe was a trend setter beyond her time… The NAKED DRESS dominated the red carpet in 2022.

Looks like 2021 predictions were right… I guess this year wasn’t completely bad after all.

Found a kinky party you like… are you going solo? With a friend? What are you boundaries? Welcome to part 5 of joining the kink community

Torture Garden has been going on for 30+ years, and since the last one I attended was before I started blogging… I thought it was time for another one!

Time for an interview with a therapist, a BDSM and sex educator that’s been in the industry for the 20+ years!! I love my little hobby 🙂

We were always kinky. We just needed an excuse to do kinky things to cure *insert random reason*. Read to know more…

You want to go to your first kinky party… how do you find the right one for you? Welcome to part 4 of joining the kink community 🙂

It has been a while since I wrote reviews about KK parties or workshops so I thought of writing about their podcast, published during our first lockdown.

Thrilled to be able to interview a professional dominatrix, a BDSM educator, and a fetish club promoter, who’s been in the industry for the 20+ years!! How exciting!

This podcast is hosted by the Financial Times. It’s about porn, power, and profit. I recommend a listen if you want to hear the real story, full of surprises!

Need some inspiration? That’s the book for you! This book is simple, short, and direct while covering all the essential that you might need to start.

‘Rocco’ is a 2016 French documentary film, co-directed by Thierry Demaizière and Alban Teurlai. About a porn-star, who made history in Italy.

Did you know that July 24th is International BDSM Day? YAY! How are you celebrating? I am going to browse some cool IG accounts (and do some NSFW stuff).

Glow West is a series of interviews with academics, sex educators, sex workers, activists, and more, discussing sex, sexuality, and the body.

What has gimp masks and takes place at the Stock Exchange?

Do you love circus? Live performers? Great cabaret? Pimms? That’s definitely the place for you (and for me, I am a sucker for a good Pimms)

Welcome to part 3 of joining the kink community! Bonus content: 5 tips to take a good dick pic because I’m tired of seeing penises in tiny cages

Have you ever wondered how many kinks and fetishes are out there? Let’s travel using this map of kinks which I think it’s cool 🙂

I would kill for a sexy man in sexy undies (I would kill a spider, and I am stupidly scared of spiders).

Off the Cuffs: a Kink & BDSM Podcast, for those in the lifestyle and those who are curious.

I don’t know about you, but I am a sucker for 90s rock. And even if you are not, at Thirst there is something for everyone!

Nude Noir events are said to be playful and seductive, in refined and decadent venues around the world. Let’s take a closer look.

Here are some messages I have received on FL that are simply dreadful. Thought I’d share so you have an idea of what to avoid where possible.

Following the Social I reviewed last time, THE FOX DEN organised its own very first party – Victoriana – and it was just beautiful ♥ ♥ ♥

You decided that you’re ready, and want to join the kink community. What’s next? Recently I wrote about creating a profile on FL. Welcome to part two 🙂

You decided you want to check out your local kink community… Now what? Some steps about joining FetLife.

After my last post on Munches: dos and don’ts, where I covered what a munch is and where to find them, I wanted to review some of the London munches.

The other day I came across a very interesting article by Vice about how demand for UK fetish clubs is now higher than ever, and thought… why is that?

Pedestal is a FemDom club, and it’s defined as the London’s playground for dominant women and those who worship them.

This year I managed to get tickets to one of my most-loved event organisers: The Mansion! Theme: Black. Have you ever been at a Mansion party?

Right. Let’s start with a couple of basic things: What is a Munch? and What is FetLife? Here are some basic non-written rules to follow…

We are talking about ‘ghosting’. Urban Dictionary definite as: When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice before hand. You’ll mostly see them avoiding friend’s phone calls, social media, and avoiding them in public.

Fox&Badge have been running sexy parties in London for over six years. They bring parties to life with their hedonistic blend of music, art, and vulnerability. With a sort of tribal twist.

But what is play? Play means different things to different people. Today, I wanted to share my personal perspective on the different types of PLAY…

Sex Education is a feel good, wholesome, and honest show about a bunch of students at this fictitious American-looking school in the British countryside.

Time for another podcast review!! Safeword: A Podcast with Mistress Eva and Dirk Hooper

Killing Kittens and Lola Jean present: Domming 101

Following the Social I reviewed last time, THE FOX DEN organised its own very first party – Victoriana – and it was just beautiful ♥ ♥ ♥

I started going back to the office again, which means that I have more time to listen to kinky podcasts on my commute! YAY! The S&M Chronicles: A Kink Podcast

There is a new sex-positive community in town. THE FOX DEN CLUB
The Fox Den was founded in 2021, but don’t let the year fool you.

While chatting to a friend, she mentioned a tv show from the ’00, about a sex worker, that I hadn’t heard of before: The Secret Diary of a Call Girl…

Today I wanted to cover pegging in a little more details, with all the steps, so I present you: MORE ABOUT PEGGING! Enjoy

What is The Boys? The Boys is a comic book series set in the mid ’00, in a world where superheroes exist, and a big corporation called Vaught International monetise their services and “protection”

It was 2019, when I heard bury a friend on youtube for the first time. I was randomly browsing random music, and I got so engrossed in it.

Quick one, have you watched Big Month? You know, the one that openly talks about porn, underage drinking, and sex?

It took me a long time to write this post. It’s a collection of personal experiences before I discovered (read: acknowledged I was into) kink.
I hope you enjoy the different point of view, I’ve never shared this much before.

Watched this the other day, and I can comfortably say I now have a kilt fetish. Uh. #kiltkink it is I guess! (*starts browsing for Scottish men online*)

Proud to be kinky is a fun podcast covering the social and interpersonal side of kink, BDSM, fetish and alternative sexualities, all seasoned with some very cool banter.

Last Christmas, I got a present I didn’t know I wanted ? ♥ BONDiNG – Season 2!!! ♥ So happy about this cute show! 🙂

Here are three steps to look after latex: WEAR IT, WASH IT, and STORE IT. Including some extra tips that might come in handy.

Here is a show about young millennial, living in NY, working for a fashion magazine, and … being bold (basically Sex & the City modern version)

In my description, I say I blog about kink, fetish, and BDSM. So, I thought, let’s break these down a little, and provide some definitions.

I decided to binge-watch Chilling Adventures of Sabrina because I love the actress and the clothes. And also because it felt more realistic than today’s real life these days.

Happy New Year! YAY, 2020 is over! Now that’s out of the way…
Let’s start the new year with a kink!

What is Dirty Talk?

At the early stages of lockdown here in the UK, I wrote about the sex toys industry and how COVID-19 affected it. Then not long ago, I wrote about the sex work industry and how COVID-19 changed it.

This 2020 saw the cancellation of both, Eurovision and London Pride (damn you COVID). And this December, I felt a little nostalgic, and wanted to spend some time reminiscing on both.

Just wanted to say congrats to RuPaul, who after being the first ever Drag Queen to make the cover of Vanity Fair, now made the cover of Cosmopolitan too!

What are you looking at? I’ll tell you what you’re looking at. You’re looking at the largest cast of transgender actors in TV history. Enjoy.

I think I promised you an interview, didn’t I? ?

I thought I would look into a Brighton and Hove based charity, with 20+ years’ experience in providing support to women.

In Great Britain (England, Wales and Scotland), the act of engaging in sex as part of an exchange of sexual services for money is legal.*

Whether you are going for a walk, running errands, or doing something I would never do (like exercise for instance), it’s always good to have a podcast to listen to.

Honestly, I don’t know about you, but Saint Laurent Autumn/Winter 20 collection tastes like BDSM, Club Kids, and women empowerment… mixed with some tartan.

Aleta Cai is a NY-based healer and dominatrix who, through Sacred BDSM, helps her clients process trauma, and leads them to a path in pursuit of peace, purity and integration.

Like everyone else (right?), I love Lady Gaga. So I thought I would share some of my fav outfits she wore recently ? starting with…

UK Leather & Fetish Archive is an IG channel documenting and providing open access to the history of fetish, kink & BDSM in the UK.

16 years have passed since Bob Carlos Clarke’s last exhibition in 2004 at The Little Black Gallery in London. Two years later he committed suicide.

When I hear the word healing, probably BDSM is not one of the first things that springs to my mind, and I bet that the same is true for many of you.

I think it’s been a while since I last posted about latex…

Earlier this year Harikrishnan was walking his dog, and a strange thought came into his mind: how does he see me?

I joined Introduction to Shibari by Killing Kittens, hosted by Gregg Hiigara and Mili-fecent ?

With a global pandemic in progress, and many of us at home full-time, it’s no surprise sex toys made the news on multiple occasions.

I recently attended the Pegging 101 online workshop run by Killing Kittens (see their Hedonism party review here), and hosted by Lola Jean. What can I say… It was informative, unashamed, and highly practical, simply awesome ♥

Emma Watson is an English actress, model and activist. We all know here as Hermione Granger from the Harry Potter film series, but she also has played leading roles in My Week with Marilyn, The Perks of Being a Wallflower (available on Netflix), The Circle (Netflix Original), the fantastic Beauty and the Beast (major Disney fan here), and the coming-of-age film Little Women.

Since it looks like we are all going to be home for a little while longer, I thought I would write a different kind of fashion blog post today!

So I re-watched the whole TV series ‘The Curious Creations of Christine McConnell‘ – available on Netflix, 100% on Rotten Tomatoes.

As we are all doing the social distancing during lockdown, I thought I would share some interesting and amusing news…

Today I thought of writing about Burlesque!

Burlesque, which derives from the Italian ‘burlesco’ meaning joke, ridicule or mockery, is a performance art intended to make you laugh, by turning pretty much anything into a parody.

This is the story of Professor Marston and the Wonder Women, an American biographical drama about a psychologist and the women who inspired him in his life.

Last night I have attended my first Hedonism party by Killing Kittens (KK).

Before I tell you all about my three-ways with two other girls, let me tell you more about KK.

Following my last blog of the Alexander McQueen exhibition, now it’s Tim Walker‘s turn ?

Last Friday, I popped over to the The Islington Metal Works for the first Rumpus of the year, some of the absolute best adult-fancy-dress parties!

It’s official, 2020 started with a BANG and with RuPaul (12 Seasons on Netflix here) as the first ever Drag Queen to make the cover of Vanity Fair ♥

Fetish is simply a small (or large) obsession with an object – say handcuffs, latex, ropes, or anything that meets your fantasies – or a specific body part – boobs and bums here reign above all, but of course also feet, hands, eyes, tummies and so on.

Some people are doing vegan or dry January, others are Marie-Kondo their house, and I am planning on re-watching Seasons 1-2 of the Chilling Adventures of Sabrina before Season 3 is out on Friday 24th January.

2019 is coming to an end, and the new ’20s are about to start… What did I learn this year? mmmmh… definitely that harnesses are THE thing!

...and instead of an envelope you get this... View this post on Instagram The invitation for the #GucciFW19 fashion show by @alessandro_michele. Modelled like papier-mâché, a mask of Hermaphroditus, who [...]

Alexander McQueen is always been such an eccentric and charismatic artist, threading on the edge between the unconventional and the unthinkable.

Fell in love with Christina in 2002 with her album Stripped, and yet I have to say I am still in love with her..

Did you see that audacious Autumn/Winter 2016 Fashion Campaign and Film by Mercedes-Benz?

The one shot by American photographer Jeff Bark featuring Russian supermodel Natasha Poly with the new SL both wearing latex (yes, the car is wearing latex too)?

What a festival that was… still buzzing!! Recommend a go with your mates; at least one in your life ?

Just watching Ghost in the Shell online and realised that Scarlett Johasson is wearing an Atsuko Kudo outfit, 15 mins in to the movie.. what else did you notice?

BDSM landed at Eurovision 2019!

The Icelandic band Hatari joined the world’s longest-running televised song competition with their latest song: ‘Hate will prevail’.

Was flickling through the issue of Bazaar mentioned in my previous post, and saw this dress. I could swear I saw it before and guess what?

I saw it on the gorgeous Rachel Weisz at the Oscars back in February

I mean, if Sophie Turner wearing LATEX on the cover page of Bazaar doesn't make this amazing, sleek, shiny material mainstream, I don't know what will!   Love it and [...]

Finally a TV Show that’s not scared of talking about kinks, BDSM, and fetish! This 3h gem (6 episodes x 15-18m each) is on Netflix and it’s 100% worth a watch.

Just a bunch of videos of Katy Perry wearing latex 🙂 enjoy!

Wondering about Deviantart I came across this rather interesting comic book, and it literally captivate me… fancy a read?

Literally MIND-BLOWN.

Last weekend, I popped over to the The Islington Metal Works to bid farewell to 2018 in style. Theme? Jingle Bells & Bats Out of Hell by Rumpus Parties.

Shall we talk about how sexy this guy is?

I admired him in ‘We need to talk about Kevin’, then I adored him as Credence in ‘Fantastic Beasts’, and now, after this photoshoot (and interview), I’m in love.

CAN BAD BLOOD IMPROVE YOUR FASHION TASTE?
The answer is duh-uh! And Taylor Swift proved it with this video:

Because if there was someone who could have gotten away with wearing latex when meeting Queen Elizabeth, that’s the other Queen (of Pop!).

Catcalling is now a crime in the UK. A step towards safety, accountability, and recognising the real impact of public harassment on women and girls. YAY!

When submissive men care more about the fantasy than about you, and I need to have a little rant about it, but I try to be constructive 🙂

Not every kink event fits your fantasy. So why not create one that does? Make it happen. Build the space you want to see.

Why being under Her spell might be exactly where you belong: Exploring the power, play, and history of Female Domination.

Benching: Did they put you on a shelf or on a pedestal? Mixed signals, vague plans, and no progress… welcome to another situationship limbo.

Merry Kinkmas! 2024 was a mix of heartache, joy, and kinky adventures. Thank you, community, for your love, laughs, and solidarity. Here’s to 2025! 🖤

Feeling lost in the dating forest? Don’t settle for breadcrumbs. Seek connections founded on mutual respect and genuine interest.

I am a tea lover. I don’t even drink coffee. So when I saw this, I HAD to write about it. I hope you enjoy it 🙂 take care

My answer would be ‘very little’! So I decided to ask an expert, someone who is a professional in his field, for his insights and experiences.

Decided to write about the Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin. Take, Allow, Serve, Accept – each slice guides us to pleasure.

Most people have heard about the fight or flight response. But is that all we are capable of? Actually, we are capable of at least two more: freeze and fawn.

5 years ago I started blogging… and I never stopped.

Sometime, those ghosts from hinge and bumble come back to haunt you, in the form of zombies. And what do you do? Let’s talk about that.

Because sometime, after receiving a compliment from a guy, I am left more confused than before. A story about negging and simple conversations.

We are talking about ‘ghosting’. Urban Dictionary definite as: When a person cuts off all communication with their friends or the person they’re dating, with zero warning or notice before hand. You’ll mostly see them avoiding friend’s phone calls, social media, and avoiding them in public.

But what is play? Play means different things to different people. Today, I wanted to share my personal perspective on the different types of PLAY…

Today I wanted to cover pegging in a little more details, with all the steps, so I present you: MORE ABOUT PEGGING! Enjoy

It took me a long time to write this post. It’s a collection of personal experiences before I discovered (read: acknowledged I was into) kink.
I hope you enjoy the different point of view, I’ve never shared this much before.

In my description, I say I blog about kink, fetish, and BDSM. So, I thought, let’s break these down a little, and provide some definitions.

Not every kink event fits your fantasy. So why not create one that does? Make it happen. Build the space you want to see.

I am pleased to present you Joining the Kink Community part 9, by Wolf Wonks, a lifestyle Domme friend of mine. Tips about using FetLife!

Become an ambassador and share your experiences to strengthen the kink community, foster belonging, and educate others. Your journey can make a difference

Getting an outfit ready for a party can be quite intimidating, so what are your options? What would be best? Let’s take a look!

This might sound strange, but this week’s blog post, is actually my last blog post. I have re-written everything 🙂

Figuring out what to wear at a party can be quite intimidating, so what are your options? What would be best? Let’s take a look!

Found a kinky party you like… are you going solo? With a friend? What are you boundaries? Welcome to part 5 of joining the kink community

You want to go to your first kinky party… how do you find the right one for you? Welcome to part 4 of joining the kink community 🙂

Welcome to part 3 of joining the kink community! Bonus content: 5 tips to take a good dick pic because I’m tired of seeing penises in tiny cages

You decided that you’re ready, and want to join the kink community. What’s next? Recently I wrote about creating a profile on FL. Welcome to part two 🙂

You decided you want to check out your local kink community… Now what? Some steps about joining FetLife.

Right. Let’s start with a couple of basic things: What is a Munch? and What is FetLife? Here are some basic non-written rules to follow…

Presenting you The London Femdom Soirée, an event about female laughter and males submission, nibbles, bubbles and more! Exactly what I needed this year.

A wildly imaginative, consent-focused kink party combining playful costumes, workshops, dungeon spaces, and wonderfully welcoming jungle vibe.

Bitches UnleaSHEd is a judgement-free environment where Dominant Females reign supreme and submissives can free themselves of societal pressures.

Wet Playground’s Valentine’s Big Edition, listed via Kitty Guide, took place in Amsterdam on the 14th of February: a rave in an old prison, in style.

A thoughtful, ceremonial femdom event with cacao, grounding rituals and consent-led play that creates a uniquely calm and connected atmosphere.

Not every kink event fits your fantasy. So why not create one that does? Make it happen. Build the space you want to see.

Decided to review even more munches in London, since there is just so many to go to! I hope you find it helpful and inspire you to attend some 🙂

Review of May’s The Cruel Huntress: Why hunt animals when you can hunt humans? Read all about this hunt in the UK, made by kinksters for kinksters!

A deep dive into the psychology of kink and fetish with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey via Seed Talks. Packed with real-life examples, clear language, and great vibes.

Review of October’s Le Boutique Bazaar: London’s finest underground fashion. Shopping, socialising, and kink with 40+ designers.

Club Femdom returned to The Hatch last August for a night of elegance, power, and high protocol service, celebrating the allure of the Femdom community.

Decided to review even more munches in London, since there is just so many to go to! I hope you find it helpful and inspire you to attend some 🙂

This June, a new Association was born. They decided to throw a party. I went. Wanna hear about the inaugural event of S+ Association at Electrowerkz?

A new event is on the horizon for you thirsty kinksters! Quench has arrived to London, and I attended their second official party.

This September, I spent the weekend out and about with a friend, browsing around between kinky shopping and kinky art. What more could I ask for?

You want to go to a party and need an outfit? Pop ups are the best places to get ideas from, this one is Charmskool (the offline version)!

A new event is on the horizon for you thirsty kinksters! Quench has arrived to London, and I attended their second official party.

Another review for Torture Garden parties, this time, since it was Valentine’s, I went for some play time in the Dungeon 🙂

Torture Garden has been going on for 30+ years, and since the last one I attended was before I started blogging… I thought it was time for another one!

Do you love circus? Live performers? Great cabaret? Pimms? That’s definitely the place for you (and for me, I am a sucker for a good Pimms)

I don’t know about you, but I am a sucker for 90s rock. And even if you are not, at Thirst there is something for everyone!

Nude Noir events are said to be playful and seductive, in refined and decadent venues around the world. Let’s take a closer look.

Following the Social I reviewed last time, THE FOX DEN organised its own very first party – Victoriana – and it was just beautiful ♥ ♥ ♥

After my last post on Munches: dos and don’ts, where I covered what a munch is and where to find them, I wanted to review some of the London munches.

Pedestal is a FemDom club, and it’s defined as the London’s playground for dominant women and those who worship them.

This year I managed to get tickets to one of my most-loved event organisers: The Mansion! Theme: Black. Have you ever been at a Mansion party?

Right. Let’s start with a couple of basic things: What is a Munch? and What is FetLife? Here are some basic non-written rules to follow…

Fox&Badge have been running sexy parties in London for over six years. They bring parties to life with their hedonistic blend of music, art, and vulnerability. With a sort of tribal twist.

Following the Social I reviewed last time, THE FOX DEN organised its own very first party – Victoriana – and it was just beautiful ♥ ♥ ♥

There is a new sex-positive community in town. THE FOX DEN CLUB
The Fox Den was founded in 2021, but don’t let the year fool you.

Last night I have attended my first Hedonism party by Killing Kittens (KK).

Before I tell you all about my three-ways with two other girls, let me tell you more about KK.

Last Friday, I popped over to the The Islington Metal Works for the first Rumpus of the year, some of the absolute best adult-fancy-dress parties!

What a festival that was… still buzzing!! Recommend a go with your mates; at least one in your life ?

Last weekend, I popped over to the The Islington Metal Works to bid farewell to 2018 in style. Theme? Jingle Bells & Bats Out of Hell by Rumpus Parties.

Shall we take a look at ‘what kind of kinky’ we are? We could put that to the test with 27 questions 🙂

5 years ago I started blogging… and I never stopped.

Last year I wrote about how we are all getting kinkier, but ‘how kinky’ are we actually getting? Let’s put that to the test!

Instagram deleted my account, and since I cannot share these sexy bunnies on there, here they are. The account is shadow-banned, click on the link. Enjoy!

Do you know what consent and fries have in common? Let’s find out with a fun graphic (and maybe a video too). Enjoy!

We were always kinky. We just needed an excuse to do kinky things to cure *insert random reason*. Read to know more…

Have you ever wondered how many kinks and fetishes are out there? Let’s travel using this map of kinks which I think it’s cool 🙂

I would kill for a sexy man in sexy undies (I would kill a spider, and I am stupidly scared of spiders).

Here are some messages I have received on FL that are simply dreadful. Thought I’d share so you have an idea of what to avoid where possible.

Review of ‘The Receipts Podcast’ with Join Tolly T & Audrey on honest, unfiltered chats on life, relationships, and cultural moments. And some listener mail.

A podcast about sex of all kinds with Jamie! All episodes are pretty different and cover various topics, so these are great if you are looking for something specific 🙂

A podcast about candid talks on sex and aging with The Hotbed Collective! Fun, informative, bridge the gap between generations.

The podcasters are two cisgender women and BDSM practitioners, and one of them own a dungeons. So I had to listen to it as I dream of saving enough money (or win the lottery) and open my own dungeon one day.

A podcast by Kayla Lords (a female sub) and John Brownstone (a male Dom) sharing what a love of BDSM looks like in a loving D/s relationship.

Do you remember when I wrote about Pegging? That was after I attended a workshop by a NY-based dominatrix… who has a podcast with his ex lover.

It has been a while since I wrote reviews about KK parties or workshops so I thought of writing about their podcast, published during our first lockdown.

This podcast is hosted by the Financial Times. It’s about porn, power, and profit. I recommend a listen if you want to hear the real story, full of surprises!

Did you know that July 24th is International BDSM Day? YAY! How are you celebrating? I am going to browse some cool IG accounts (and do some NSFW stuff).

Glow West is a series of interviews with academics, sex educators, sex workers, activists, and more, discussing sex, sexuality, and the body.

Off the Cuffs: a Kink & BDSM Podcast, for those in the lifestyle and those who are curious.

Time for another podcast review!! Safeword: A Podcast with Mistress Eva and Dirk Hooper

I started going back to the office again, which means that I have more time to listen to kinky podcasts on my commute! YAY! The S&M Chronicles: A Kink Podcast

Proud to be kinky is a fun podcast covering the social and interpersonal side of kink, BDSM, fetish and alternative sexualities, all seasoned with some very cool banter.

Whether you are going for a walk, running errands, or doing something I would never do (like exercise for instance), it’s always good to have a podcast to listen to.

Interviewing someone who’s running a business within the kink community, Vicky, owner of Bondatrix, performer, and kink educator.

Interviewing a friend and published author, Anita Cassidy. Meet the woman behind the novel Appetite, and the website Alethya.

Explore Fitness Domination with Louise Payn, a Domme blending fitness, yoga, and kink to empower and transform lives in the BDSM community.

Interview with Club Pedestal’s organiser, Derek, on being a women-adoring submissive, the London’s FemDom community, and running the Club.

This June, a new Association was born. They decided to throw a party. I went. Wanna hear about the inaugural event of S+ Association at Electrowerkz?

My answer would be ‘very little’! So I decided to ask an expert, someone who is a professional in his field, for his insights and experiences.

Interviewing the mind behind London Alternative Market. Cosmic, someone with a rather controversial reputation, and a friend of fellow blogger Alice.

Interviewing a swinger, blogger, and published author: Alice Hunter. Meet the woman behind Unicorns and How to Hunt Them, and learn about the swinger community.

Interviewing an old school Dominatrix, Governess, Dungeon Monitor for Club Pedestal. She’s one of the founders of House of Command and rather busy bee!

You want to go to a party and need an outfit? Pop ups are the best places to get ideas from, this one is Charmskool (the offline version)!

Time for an interview with a therapist, a BDSM and sex educator that’s been in the industry for the 20+ years!! I love my little hobby 🙂

Thrilled to be able to interview a professional dominatrix, a BDSM educator, and a fetish club promoter, who’s been in the industry for the 20+ years!! How exciting!

I think I promised you an interview, didn’t I? ?

I thought I would look into a Brighton and Hove based charity, with 20+ years’ experience in providing support to women.

UK Leather & Fetish Archive is an IG channel documenting and providing open access to the history of fetish, kink & BDSM in the UK.