The Over 40 Munch is warm and inclusive, very much designed for kinksters over the age of 40. Established two years ago, it’s held on the third Saturday of every month and has recently found its new home in Camden, having previously been located further north (and too far for me to review previously lol).

Run by a team of three organisers—two of whom are women with a feminist ethos and a menopause-friendly approach—this munch ensures a safe and welcoming environment for all attendees.

The crowd size varies between 10 to 50 participants, with a mix of regulars and newcomers at each gathering. The atmosphere is friendly and non-judgmental, embracing individuals across the gender spectrum and exuding a distinctly Gen X vibe.

A charming and quirky feature of this munch is its mascot—a “Little Shop of Horrors” plant—which adds a playful touch to the gathering. Another great event to connect with like-minded individuals in a relaxed and supportive setting, for both newbies and seasoned veteran.

*This munch is no on at the moment, but you never know! Some munches make a come back.

The Over 35 Munch is a friendly and relaxed monthly gathering for kinksters aged 35 and over. Held in a Central London pub on the second Tuesday of each month, it takes place in the evening and draws a crowd of around 10 to 40 people, depending on the month.

Run by a couple of organisers (both wearing armbands on the night so they’re easy to spot) the munch has a welcoming, low-key atmosphere that encourages conversation and connection. A fun touch to the event is their mascot: a stuffed T. rex named Mark Boland, a playful nod to the musician from T. Rex.

It’s a good idea to arrive early, especially if you’d like to settle in before things get busy or claim a good seat. Whether you’re easing back into the scene or looking to meet fellow kinksters in your age group, the Over 35 Munch offers a lovely, sociable space to do just that.

Femdom4Femmes is a brand new London munch for straight, bi, queer, and/or questioning femmes who love FemDom. Whether you identify as a Domme, switch, sub, or are still figuring it out, this event is all about creating space for femmes to meet other femmes in kink without the pressure or presence of cis men.

Below is a first-hand review from one of the attendees at FD4F debut munch, as I could not personally attend.

“The Femdom subculture within the kink community has always leaned heavily towards the dynamic between Dominant women and submissive men. However, it can leave queer femmes, especially those who switch, feeling a little out of place. So you can imagine my delight when I saw the launch of a brand new munch in London: Femdom4Femmes.

Created by three femme identifying Dommes, the munch was born out of a recognition of such challenges, and they wanted to create a space to actively change that. And they absolutely have.

The first FD4F took place early May in Central London, with venue details only shared to RSVPs to help keep the space safe and free from cis male attendees. Nearly sixty of us gathered, and the energy was brilliant: warm, open, and refreshingly free of the dynamics that can sometimes make munches feel awkward or performative. It was easy to chat, connect, and just enjoy the company of fellow femmes.

Before the event, the organisers thoughtfully shared expectations and community values with the attending members, with emphasis on inclusion. Personally, I often go to munches with a bit of a guard up. There’s usually at least one guy I find myself avoiding eye contact with—and definitely avoiding conversation. But at Femdom4Femmes, I genuinely wanted to speak to everyone. The space felt inviting and easy in a way that’s rare.

This is the kind of event many of us have been quietly (or not so quietly) hoping for. A space that puts femmes front and centre, and I’m so grateful to the organisers who’ve taken the initiative to create it.

The next date hasn’t been announced yet, and a regular schedule is still being figured out—but trust me, if I can make it to the next one, I absolutely will. The only question is: will you?”

Review by NancyBlackett.

Suds for subs is a smallish (10-15 people) London munch for male identifying and non binary subs interested in female identified Dommes. Which means I don’t fit the demographic 🙂

Therefore, this time, I have a review from one of the organisers instead! please read below!

“The idea was inspired by Drinks for Dommes (review here), the endless critique of male identifying subs on Fetlife and the idea that men (+) are rubbish at talking about their feelings. Such that perhaps a safe male (ish) space for subs would generate some interesting conversations, balance the patriarchal indoctrination of men (+) to behave like ‘men’, and maybe do something to balance the all male (+) subs are dicks narrative.

As a munch they meet every 2 months and organise an activity in between. Activities so far include crazy golf, noodles and a D/s yoga class. The munch itself starts at 7pm and moves around a little. So to find out where you need to say hello to the group. There’s generally a group discussion as people settle in, then an informal chat as the group breaks into huddles, that ebb and flow through the evening.

The group, and munch is open to anyone with a demonstrable capacity to turn up to a real world event. That’s it. The idea is not to gatekeep, but to avoid the keyboard warriors. In practice this means you need to either know someone in the group or be able to say hello to someone at one of the many Femdom munches (reviewed some here), clubs, or compose an eloquent short message to the admin account to convince them you might be up for turning up. Else what’s the point.

Otherwise like most munches it’s a group of friends with specific interests, chatting in a pub so if this works for you, come get involved.“

Written by Candleflame.